​Where have you borrowed someone else’s belief? Whose narrative have you attached yourself to? Whose story have you unconsciously made your own? Whose reality have you moved yourself into? Every story from someone else that you allow yourself to resonate with on any level has the potential to automatically become included in your own vibration. 

If there’s any aspect or event in your experience causing you distress or any level of discomfort, there is likely a pattern of thought running that you’ve rehearsed and continue to rehearse. One of the first steps to making a shift is recognizing what that pattern is and labeling it as a program that needs to change. Creating awareness around what programs you are running sets you up for freedom from those programs. When you recognize a belief to be a belief you’re that much closer to shifting out of the old and into the new. 

​For every pattern you recognize within yourself, understanding how that pattern enhances or diminishes your creative power, your flow of energy through the layers of your being, is very useful. Codependency is a way of being in the world, in your relationship to others, to yourself, and in your relationship to the situations of your experience that has significant impact on your energy flow, on how you direct the life pulse of your creative being to manifest your personal reality. 

Be mindful of the stories you let yourself become accustomed to telling. Be mindful of the stories and explanations you integrate into your being from your environment. Be mindful of the energies you allow yourself to resonate with. Remind yourself that no matter the source of the information, it’s still entirely up to you to evaluate it for its usefulness and service to your highest and best.

The expectation you unconsciously hold around "I can't get exactly what I want" or "I have to settle for less than what I want" or flat out "I can't always have what I want" is often rooted in the emotional learning you take on from the inconsistent or restricted giving of the “authority” figures in your early experience, your parents or caregivers, your early teachers, your family members and so on.