​Your indoctrination into earth life, into embodied experience may make it feel like at times that other people can create in your reality, that their decisions, their behaviors, their thoughts and feelings about you can determine what you do and don’t experience. Such a belief then makes you behave in ways where you are continually trying to assess and influence what others think, feel, and do where you’re concerned. 

​Where have you borrowed someone else’s belief? Whose narrative have you attached yourself to? Whose story have you unconsciously made your own? Whose reality have you moved yourself into? Every story from someone else that you allow yourself to resonate with on any level has the potential to automatically become included in your own vibration. 

​For every pattern you recognize within yourself, understanding how that pattern enhances or diminishes your creative power, your flow of energy through the layers of your being, is very useful. Codependency is a way of being in the world, in your relationship to others, to yourself, and in your relationship to the situations of your experience that has significant impact on your energy flow, on how you direct the life pulse of your creative being to manifest your personal reality. 

The deliberate creator’s approach to managing relationships involves recognizing where people are and accepting them for where they are in their personal evolution. Most of the tension you feel in relationships comes from resisting how people are showing up and from denying the reality of who they’ve already shown you they are. Seldom do people show you their wholeness and still center but rather live and lead from their learned and constructed versions of self-ness.