Your indoctrination into earth life, into embodied experience may make it feel like at times that other people can create in your reality, that their decisions, their behaviors, their thoughts and feelings about you can determine what you do and don’t experience. Such a belief then makes you behave in ways where you are continually trying to assess and influence what others think, feel, and do where you’re concerned.
"Their emotions, actions, perspective impact my reality" is kind of the master construct that is at the root of that subtle preoccupation with other people's behavior in a way where you get energy from what they do or don’t do, from what they extend or don’t extend toward you. There's this belief that says someone else's choices, behaviors, approach and the like are what's determining the trajectory of whatever you’re observing and experiencing about yourself – it puts their behaviors and expressions in the creative seat and you defer to their expressions as being the power that's steering your experiences of yourself. There’s a subtle relinquishing of your power as you say and hold a state that says “they define who I am, who I can be”.
What’s reflected in the world around you is always your own energy and whatever behaviors you’re engaging in moment after moment is a powerful indicator to you on what that energy flow is. No one can create emotions and thoughts in your nervous system. No one has access to your neurology that you haven’t granted. If anyone is influencing you, if anyone is appearing to determine what you can and can’t do in the world, what you can and can’t have, who you can and can’t be in the world, it is because you’ve granted them that level of authority in your experience.
Every moment you find yourself waiting on someone to validate some aspect of your being, every time you wait for someone or something to affirm your worthiness, your value, your wholeness, your possibilities for love or success or health, recognize that behavior for what it is – a behavior that is fueled by a flawed premise that says “energy, validation, affirmation, celebration comes from over there”. A need to have external confirmation that your perspective is the right one, that your approach is the right one, that your choices are the right one’s, that your words are the right one, that your accomplishments are the good kind, is an opportunity and an invitation to examine where that need is coming from.
Any need to receive validation, approval, affirmation from an external source, any need or want to have something or someone outside of you affirm your perspective, affirm your worth, affirm your experience is worth taking a closer look at. If there’s any area of your life where you feel like you’re waiting on someone to recognize and acknowledge who you are, you are engaging in an internal strategy that holds or pinches off the flow of your own magnificence. This behavior of waiting on the world to see you, to notice you, to recognize you, to celebrate you, to acknowledge you is often masking a master construct, a felt core belief, that says that you aren’t already worth celebration, worth the sounding of trumpets and the celestial chorus of joy, just for existing.
When you are filled with the understanding that your worth and value in Creation, in Existence, in Life is innate, that there is nothing for you to prove, that there is nothing for you to do, you will never again look to the outer world for confirmation, validation, approval of any kind. Why look to the material world when the source of Existence, the very Source of all of Creation has already approved of you, validated you, affirmed your worth and value by giving you life? In being filled with the understanding of your inherent worth and value, you will reclaim the authority you’ve always had in scripting and expressing yourself in whatever way excites and pleases you.
When you’ve taken full ownership of what you do and don’t do in your own nervous system, you will notice an ability that has always been there – the ability to grant or deny access to any and all data that arises within you and that comes toward you from the environment and people around you. It's like proteins binding to cells, proteins can only lock-on to a cell if that cell has the matching key. Well, other people's perspectives (their input/data contribution/energy) can only penetrate your own perspective (generate a reaction) and influence you, if your perspective has that matching key, if you have some matching resonance in your outlook that echo’s whatever data they’re extending to you. Saying that someone has an "in" in your perspective is saying that you have an opening in your energetic field layers for their input. It's like saying "I’ve granted this person's perspective access to influence my reality". You cannot call vibrations forward that you aren’t a match to – like calls to like, so if some pattern of experience is there in your reality it is only because you have some packet or fragment of consciousness resonating at that matching frequency.
Consider for a moment that other people’s behavior has nothing to do with your reality. Other people’s behavior has nothing to do with your nervous system. Other people’s experiences has nothing to do with your neurology or reality tunnel. No one creates in your reality but you. It is the unconscious resonance with whatever someone else is doing or not doing, is choosing or not choosing, is expressing or not expressing, that’s feeding any reactive narratives about yourself and others in your life --- it's still you generating the electrically or energetically magnetizing frequencies of your experience.
What other people do or don’t think about you is actually none of your business. What other people choose to do in their nervous system, in their neurology, how they choose to sort and register data from their environment and from you, is none of your business. This doesn’t mean you exercise total disregard for their boundaries or become irresponsible with your own energy. Rather it means your commitment and focus has to be about aligning yourself to your own highest good, to the flow of Source in and through your being. Let yourself come to know that no one can create in your experience, no one has that access unless you’ve generated a matching frequency in yourself. Look to Source-Intelligence for approval, validation, affirmation – It’s the only reliable and steady stream there is. Total and unconditional self-acceptance, total and unconditional positive self-regard is the closest vibration you can come to when it comes to being aligned to how Life-Source-Pure Consciousness sees, feels, and recognizes you. Tap into that and stay tapped in continuously.
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