The expectation you unconsciously hold around "I can't get exactly what I want" or "I have to settle for less than what I want" or flat out "I can't always have what I want" is often rooted in the emotional learning you take on from the inconsistent or restricted giving of the “authority” figures in your early experience, your parents or caregivers, your early teachers, your family members and so on.
When you grow up and move into interacting with the broader world/universe, you then project this emotionalized learning and continue to assume that the world/universe/Source is going to behave in that same way of either fully denying you or being inconsistent with you or asking you to settle for less than your desired quality or degree of experience.
An emotionalized learning is an emotionally infused construct where some assumption about yourself or the way things work is made from your undeveloped child intellect and then pumped full of the raw unfiltered emotional reaction of those early experiences. So if you didn't have parents or caregivers, teachers, and other authority figures who always and all the time gave you exactly what you asked for (e.g. sometimes they did, sometimes they said ‘no’, sometimes they gave you something less than you wanted like a different brand of shoes), then you develop that impression that you aren't allowed to have what you really want, you can't have what you really want, you have to settle for less and so on and so forth for a variety of reasons.
Where in your life do you feel you’re settling for less? Where in your experience do you feel you are settling for something other than what you truly want and desire? Settling for less is a learned pattern of behavior, it’s a pattern where there is a disconnect between what you say you want and what you end up experiencing. Your conscious mind says one thing and images one thing, but your lived and embodied reality driven by your subconscious behaviors and decisions demonstrates something else. There is a mind and body split here, there is a split in the consciously generated energy currents that are indicative of your intention and the subtle embodied or memorized energy currents born of your experiential conclusions.
Take a look at the intentions you’ve set for yourself. Take a look at the vision of your ideal life, your ideal career, your ideal relationship, your ideal spirituality, your ideal health. If these ideals, if these intentions aren’t expressing and flowing into your experience quite like you desire, you may have the “settling for less” construct operating in your flow of manifestation. The settling for less construct says you have to settle for less than what you want, you have to make do with what you’re given, you have to take what you’re given and not ask for more. When you take a look at that area or those areas in your life where things don’t at all look like or quite look like what you desire, what narrative do you have going on? What’s the why? Is there something or someone denying you that outcome in your interpretation? Ask yourself “why don’t I have this the way I desire it yet” and see what your mind and body offer up.
Different variations of this construct can look like the following statements:
“I can’t ever have what I want.” “I can’t always have what I want.” “I can’t have what I want exactly.” “I only ever get less than I truly desire.” “I have to settle for less than what I really want.” “There isn’t enough, I can only have a little bit.” “I have to ask for less than what I really want because there isn’t enough.” “I have to settle for this because I’m not good enough (smart enough, important enough, nice enough, attractive enough etc.) to have more.”
The general feeling behind this construct is that of being unable to have what you really want for one reason or another. If you feel any thread of connection or resonance to these kinds of statements or this overall feeling, and if you have an area or multiple areas in your life where it’s clear to you that you’re not in the quality of environment and experiences you say is your true desire, then there’s some limiting belief to deconstruct and some trapped vital energy or emotion to clear and get moving again. There’s the overt assumption of the “I can’t have what I want” premise but there’s also the subtle presupposition that something or someone outside of you is deciding and determining your outcomes. It’s a two tiered powerlessness construct.
It’s your child self looking at the world and making conclusions about it without the integrated awareness of who you truly are and your creative power, facing “authority” figures who themselves are expressing their own versions of limitation and unawareness of their broader self. The way to stop settling for less than you truly desire then is to first review your narrative and reasons, justifications, memories, explanations around the flow of manifestation in that area of your life. Look at any recurring patterns of thought and emotion around the areas where you're not getting what you desire. Recall when else and where else you've felt that way. Bring up any and all images, sensations, and sounds of when else in your lifetime you've learned this narrative to be the truth.
Your body and your mind are continually bringing to surface those lower frequency limiting judgments or constructs for you to lean into with full awareness of who you really are. With focused self-awareness around the whole pattern, you will be able to bring more energy and consciousness into those old memories and learnings. You will be able to bring your adult consciousness into them fully, and by doing that bring all parts of yourself into the now-moment of full empowerment where what you intend from that new level of empowered energy and what you experience will begin to match.
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